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Why white men love the black woman

Posted by James, 31 Aug

Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is: why some white guys are opening themselves to black women. Let’s concentrate on that.

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Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person… be it in appearance or personality.

However, one thing that a white male friend of mine said… and I let him get away with bundling it all up is: “We love a black woman's confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity...᾿ Since this info was coming from a man, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?" Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating sites. You would think they have never done it. But those uptight individuals are the ones that spread these stereotypes. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?

Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame ol’ lines, then you sure as hell haven’t dated a black woman.

Bottom line, you don't have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, some white guy will find you too.

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  1.   skeletonlove says:
    Posted: 29 Nov

    Black don't Crack darling..

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  2.   Him81 says:
    Posted: 23 Nov

    I have this burn inside when I'm near a beautiful confident black woman. And I've never had the opportunity to embrace my desire, yet

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  3.   cliff375 says:
    Posted: 28 Oct

    very loveing women black there are very careing and very sexual

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  4.   Jim_B says:
    Posted: 11 Aug

    I honestly don't know why I like black women.

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  5.   Holyj says:
    Posted: 01 Jul

    they are humble and respectful

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  6.   PAwoman says:
    Posted: 18 Apr

    I have heard white men say that they find Black Women who exude confidence and strength appealing.. also I’ve also heard this one… the contrast of our skin with theirs! And also , the curves.. I’ve heard that one too

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    • Lady831 says:
      Posted: 31 May

      Yes... I've heard all of that too.

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    • DavB40 says:
      Posted: 08 Jun

      Black is just So Bold dear!! Your gorgeous and good looking lady!!!

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    • Him81 says:
      Posted: 23 Nov

      I've never had the pleasure but I know what stirs my fire and it is Carmel skin nice curves THIKK and then their confidence is over powering

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  7.   Babygirl2615 says:
    Posted: 05 Mar

    From what have heard, we black ladies are respectful and calm. the white men love our beauty. I hope one day I find a white man to love

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  8.   Harrystack says:
    Posted: 05 Mar

    Generally uninhibited

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    • lbb123 says:
      Posted: 11 Jul

      Can you elaborate on your comment, I don’t want to assume what you mean.

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  9.   Magie123 says:
    Posted: 24 Feb

    I think It's because most of black women especially from Africa are; - well mannered, I mean they easily agree to what a white husband/boyf can suggest unlike the white female -they aren't into social media, most of the white female want to be celebrities so they do not give time to their bfs -they are not too pampered by their parents and no man wants wants such.

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  10.   Nusu221 says:
    Posted: 06 Feb

    They respectful

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  11.   Doc_Savage says:
    Posted: 18 Nov 22

    "Why white men love the black woman?" Its complicated is one answer. Otherwise, if you find yourself in a cosmopolitan mixed race environment and you don't have any racial baggage I don't think you give interracial dating a second thought. Any more than you would not date someone from another another country or nationality. Ethnicity and race are not the biggest obstacles to cis or any other couples getting it together. We are all part of huge populations full of diversity within our own ethnic and racial groups so crossing over the interracial dating divide is great for the gene pool as well as building stable societies, tolerance and mutual understanding. If you are lucky enough to meet someone suitable on every basis from another race, that is into you and there are no vast bureaucratic hurdles keeping you apart and you are both single, then why not mingle? Also lets face it men are men too; so when it comes to "why the white men love the black woman!?" - remember they love any woman out there usually and some even love the ham sandwich if it has flaps lol.. Then there is GOD and he definitely says.. "Take a pinch of white man Wrap him up in black skin Add a touch of blue blood And a little bitty bit of red Indian boy Oh like a Curly Latin kinkies Oh Lordy, Lordy, mixed with yellow Chinkees, yeah You know you lump it all together And you got a recipe for a get along scene Oh what a beautiful dream If it could only come true, you know, you know" ...lyrics by Blue Mink from song Melting Pot.

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    • McRossi says:
      Posted: 22 Nov 22

      Doc_savage you're right on this, it's very complicated to give a direct answer on this one. Like you said earlier we are all part of a huge population full of diversity, I believe anyone can fall in love with whoever they got a good chemistry with regardless of their skin color or where they are from.

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  12.   Onunms says:
    Posted: 26 Sep 22

    We are all unique in our own way be It White/Black! Great Article though but Wish to find my own Imperfect White man.

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    • LvilleMan says:
      Posted: 12 Nov 22

      One thing I've learned after years of dating African and African American, including those who were a different faith than me is, we are all unique. That's the attraction! Not the color of our skin. The beauty I've found of dating a black woman is her resiliency. She's just now coming into a society that is going to give her the respect and her due!

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  13.   Annelie. says:
    Posted: 12 Aug 22

    Thanks for the article, (Newbie here)I will keep being positive.. I hope I find a genuine white man here sooner than later.

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  14.   Miissyy says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 22

    Is true what they say, there's someone for everyone. Black women are very expressive, they don't let you wonder what they are thinking or what's on their mind. Is such a shame that some black men don't appreciate us that way. Maybe is about time I give a white male a chance and see how it goes, besides i do have a theory I'll like to put to test.

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  15.   Miissyy says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 22

    Is true what they say, there's someone for everyone. Black women are very expressive, they don't let you wonder what they are thinking or what's on their mind. Is such a shame that some black men don't appreciate us that way. Maybe is about time I give a white male a chance and see how it goes, besides i do have a theory I'll like to put to test.

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  16.   WM4Ebony says:
    Posted: 22 May 22

    II have crushed on black women since I saw an hour-glass-figured beauty walking across the diamonds after a baseball game.....It was an extremely lustful moment for a 15-year-old boy....lol.....Still extremely attracted in all ways....but I find black women extremely sexy.....

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  17.   monsterbacke says:
    Posted: 11 Apr 22

    If you are surrounded by mostly white women (e.g. here in Germany) a black woman is like an unicorn: rare, exotic and far to reach. So this may help to raise the attraction very high. Do not get me wrong, that is not meant to be a devaluation. Just a try to explain it on a rational base. If you keep this aside there is this caring, social, fun and open-minded spirit of these women that´s totally adoring.

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    • PAwoman says:
      Posted: 18 Apr

      Love this comment !❤️ I can see that it would be that way in Germany

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  18.   BrokenSteve says:
    Posted: 27 Jan 22

    I find black women to be joyous, beautiful, sexy and full of life. I feel happy knowing that my partner will always find a way to make me smile, even on the darkest of days. The only gripe I have about black women (on this site, not in general) Is the lying about their body. So many state they are slim when they are so obviously not!

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  19.   Faith-Lavish says:
    Posted: 20 Jan 22

    Wow , what a beautiful Article, ''be real, be you and the right person will find you''. I like the comments too. Well I am still around hoping I meet that God fearing Man meant for me. Good luck to all the ladies and Man searching.

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  20.   superkruz says:
    Posted: 17 Jan 22

    African women aren't human - they're super human! To me, they are Gods most beautiful creation and must be adored, served and worshiped - that is my greatest desire. Their beauty is beyond belief, their attitude out of this world! I hope I meet my Queen very soon and have a beautiful family where we love, respect and nurture each other.

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    • beebelnat says:
      Posted: 23 Jan 22

      Am so happy to hear someone complimenting black woman like this. I hope all goes well with you

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    • mimifrench says:
      Posted: 20 Feb 22

      How wonderful to see someone appreciate us for all we have to offer. I have found my white king for the second time so I hope you find your black Queen very soon.

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    • Lizndush73 says:
      Posted: 20 Feb 22

      Woooow,very good of you to say such a positive vibe about African black women. I'm happy to hear this.

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    • Africa777 says:
      Posted: 02 Mar 22

      Beautiful and eloquently put...May the universe conspire along with your desires. ASE❤️

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    • Bestchoice01 says:
      Posted: 06 Apr 22

      As an African woman I really appreciate this compliment. Thanks

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    • poobae says:
      Posted: 19 Jul 22

      Well spoken

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    • Evad13 says:
      Posted: 25 Oct 22

      Wonderfully put

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    • Uvy37 says:
      Posted: 29 Jan

      For the first time a I feel praised , thank you. As a black proudly African woman ❤️❤️❤️

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  21.   Rikkifaith says:
    Posted: 21 Oct 21

    Thank you very much for the article It will be of help to me (newbies) in this site.

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    • TonyCB says:
      Posted: 06 Apr 22

      Hi. From my perspective of having dated black women long before it was acceptable (almost 30yrs), what pushed me to cross the line n stay there is i was wowed by how awesome black women treated me. In every aspect of a relationship. Sex, keeping a house, cooking, listening to me n being understanding. And one of the most important, expressing how she feels WHEN SHE FEELS IT! Theres no guesswork at knowing where you stand with a black woman. If a man makes her mad, sad, happy, hurts her feelings, she lets him know it! For all you black women, never quit being who you are because no other woman around the world can touch a black woman!

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      • hibiscus0592 says:
        Posted: 26 Aug 22

        Wow!! Glad to hear you find black women so delightful and sexy and have dated interracial for (almost 30 years) I sincerely hope that you have met one good enough to marry...I want to encourage All Swirlers to go all the way and commit to each other landlords to live happy ever

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      • Uvy37 says:
        Posted: 29 Jan

        ❤️❤️❤️

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      • PAwoman says:
        Posted: 18 Apr

        Great comment! Great perspective!

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      • PAwoman says:
        Posted: 18 Apr

        Great comment! Great perspective!

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  22.   londonfog says:
    Posted: 25 Jul 21

    Interracial dating is alot of people's preference, and that is wonderful. However on this site almost all of what you see are black women dating white men. There is and always has been and will be many more Black men dating outside their race than anyone else yet you would think this site is for White men and Black women only

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  23.   queenmonic says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 21

    Nice comments, white men have been complimenting me on my appearance everyday.

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  24.   22jaguar says:
    Posted: 27 May 21

    It is only an opportunity to deface deny and desecrate black men to humiliate and embarrass them and show them I can get what you want based on my financial flexibility something you cannot do

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    • MonogamousCA says:
      Posted: 16 Sep 22

      All women desire financial security and some women demand it. It is crucial to one's ability to survive and thrive. A man's ethnicity or physical attributes do not matter to me. A great/compatible man who loves and worships me, who also provides financial security is all I need.

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  25.   amd53075 says:
    Posted: 18 May 21

    In my experience I have found black women to be far more supportive, joyful, passionate, caring, insightful, confident, and on the whole generally more spiritually, mentally, and emotionally developed than women of other races. They also have the most beautiful smiles and the most invigorating presence.

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    • Nora08105 says:
      Posted: 22 May 21

      Aww so nice

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    • 2Asia says:
      Posted: 11 Sep 21

      What a wonderful thing to say, I love that!

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    • Cali38girl says:
      Posted: 02 Mar 22

      Thanks... I have found myself being so happy because there is no reason not to... I'm glad I read this because when I ask some white guys what attracts then to black women. The first thing on this list are the curves.... now we all know black women are curvy but what about the personality, the loyalty, the attentiveness, the loving, passionate people that we are.. I hate being called a Goddess and despise being told that I will be worshiped... Like no.... treat me like you would treat any woman

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  26.   RuralRefugee says:
    Posted: 25 Feb 21

    Black women are great. Just don't make them mad, because they throw shoes with deadly aim.

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  27.   Blind2Colour says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 20

    Black women have an elegance that is unmatched by any other race. Call it "black girl magic" or whatever you want, I find it captivating beyond words. And, I am grateful for it always.

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  28.   M2145 says:
    Posted: 24 Dec 20

    There are more beautiful, down to earth, and know how to make a man feel like a man. I've always been attracted to darker women they're just more beautiful to me

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  29.   ManVibe says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 20

    I have been dating black women for the past 7+ years after my divorce. Black women have become my clear preference. By far. I have found black women are a stark contrast from a lot of American white women who are often entitled, miserable Karens, rarely satisfied, and do not respect their men. Not all the Beckys of course, but enough for me to notice. Black women have often communicated they don't always get the respect, appreciation, or affection and attention from black men. Again, NOT all. Further, they often have to be in their masculine, be the breadwinner, run the household, make all the decisions, be the mother and the father, be the nurturer and the disciplinarian. So when the meet a man like some of us who are romantic, chivalrous, respectful, appreciative they will often melt into their femimine. When I like and am attracted to a woman she will know it, and she will feel it strongly. I have recieved so much respect, appreciation, and passion from so many black women that it was quite eye opening. I used to think Black Girl Magic was just a cute if not ever so slightly narcissitic cliche among black women. Now I know. It's real. And I'm a believer.

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    • Sherrylynne says:
      Posted: 17 Dec 20

      Thank you for the compliments . I am separated from my white husband, we were married for 16 years, which I believed was two people creating strength and courage between us. In the beginning of the marriage he started pulling away sexually I supported him for the reasons he shared. One morning I asked him what is truly going on why no desire to sleep with me , hold me , kiss me . I am not over weight, I am a team player financially, health care , and providing a fantastic home in other words I did what I knew best. He gave me several different things and answers as to why the distance existed several stood out but this one struck me the most he felt that I should be thankful as a black women to be married to him because of his knowledge and education, and that he had endured racial discrimination for me ? It was as if he was born in another place I have empathy for him and this situation has made me stronger .

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      • niconichole1 says:
        Posted: 26 May 21

        I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Your a Queen point blank period. God will carry, guide and heal you in this situation. Peace and blessings

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      • Cali38girl says:
        Posted: 02 Mar 22

        When comments like this are made... he was deeply rooted and didn't even realize it.... Grateful? You both sacrificed racial discrimination for Love. Best wishes

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    • PAwoman says:
      Posted: 18 Apr

      This is by far the best comment that I’ve read here!! Thank you for that

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  30.   Chocokisse84 says:
    Posted: 12 Nov 20

    I'm yet to find my vanilla guy

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  31.   Smplymary says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 20

    Any white man please let's be together I'm ready to relocate and to build family

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  32.   Virtue1969 says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 20

    absolutely beautiful absolutely beautiful

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  33.   Emronz says:
    Posted: 10 Sep 20

    Quite simply, I find Black women incredibly beautiful.

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  34.   Glowy07 says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 20

    Sometimes, you just want to explore outside your race. If you bear no ill feelings about other race then it’s a good adventure. Love can find you anywhere.

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  35.   mulberry94 says:
    Posted: 06 Sep 20

    All most women want is somebody who's genuine! I've just spent 3 years with someone who wasn't who I thought he was. He got caught out via Twitter. I don't think all white men are the same every race has players

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  36.   Sm82g3m8 says:
    Posted: 26 Aug 20

    Black women like white guys, they don't want them to at them in a bad way.

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  37.   cass02 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 20

    I have been attracted to Ebony women since age 15 and hope to oneday find my Nubian queen to settle down with

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    • Melly41237 says:
      Posted: 01 Oct 20

      Come here

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    • Jan34567 says:
      Posted: 09 Oct 20

      I,m also looking for white men who is no what he need and who is serious ayou the one am looking for

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    • PAwoman says:
      Posted: 24 Feb 21

      @cass02; Although I appreciate your attraction to us black women, and please don't take this defensively, but some of us do not like being referred to as " Ebony women"

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  38.   laidbackfun7 says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 20

    Black women are strong yet soft and caring. The black women I have dated have not been judgmental and were affectionate and did not shy away from showing their love for being with me.

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    • Smplymary says:
      Posted: 29 Sep 20

      I want to be with you

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      • Amethystblue says:
        Posted: 11 Jul 21

        Girl you sound creepy and desperate. Find someone who you vibe with. You come across as u will just take anyone white ans that’s off putting and offensive

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        • Tsomething says:
          Posted: 06 Apr 22

          True that. I'm praying more bw can find a way to NOT be desperate. I've been single for God knows how long, but I still have standards. Men of any race must be vetted.

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  39.   Nessa431 says:
    Posted: 27 Jul 20

    Because we are beautiful and need to be loved and kissed on the lips

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  40.   Soulmate2u says:
    Posted: 06 Jun 20

    Everyone has their personal opinions, experiences, and perceptions. There is nothing wrong with that. It is that "human experience" that makes us unique. Our "spiritual experience" is what makes us One, or the same. I'm not speaking of a religious experience, but spiritual awakening. To me, they are very different experiences. Not that one is right or wrong. Or that one is better or worse. They are just very different in practice and knowledge. My personal opinion and experience is why I am on this site, and other like it. To express my most personal and fervent opinion would be to shout in the Most direct, unapologetic, and confident manner, the following factual reality: BLACK WOMEN ARE THE MOST AMAZING, TALENTED, BEAUTIFUL, GORGEOUS, AND EXCEPTIONAL PEOPLE ON THIS EARTH. NO EXCEPTIONS !!! They are simultaneously the most under appreciated, neglected, forgotten, ignored and undervalued individuals in the world. This is my personal opinion, based upon my lifetime experience. I know I'm stating the obvious here and it has been said many times before. I get it that I am merely repeating a Truth that every quality man on this site already knows. That does not mean, however, that is less true. Or that my statement carries less weight. To me, it is as true as the sun rising in the East every morning. It need to be said Just because this Truth is known does not mean that it should not be repeated over and over. When one views a majestic sunset, there are a myriad of reactions. All across the board. That's fine. My reaction would be to state out loud something, like "That is the MOST Beautiful sunset I have ever seen. It's simply heart-stopping !" I feel that same Inner emotional reaction for Black Women. They are Gorgeous in the Most BREATHTAKING manner. I am in Awe of their natural, unlimited, unique, and Special Beauty. That emotional response is never ending for me personally. It's something that never slows down, or gets lost, or loses it's Truth, just because I feel it continuously. It is merely the most basic and obvious reality that I know. Some can accuse me of hyperbole. That's fine. I can live with that. Some can suggest I'm full of BS and not being realistic. Again, I'm OK with anyone's opinion of my feelings. That's their right. But it Does NOT, nor will it ever prevent me from commenting upon that Gorgeous, Magnificent Sunset. I will continue to express my deepest belief over and over. Some people tell me that if you say something too often that it loses its appeal or impact. It lessens what one is expressing. Personally, I refuse to accept that. If I am STRONGLY AND PASSIONATELY compelled to tell the Most Amazing and Stunning Black Woman in my life (My One and Only Twin Flame) that she is unquestionably The Most Beautiful Woman On the planet everyday in every way, then that is what is will do. Every Day ! And I will feel Truthful, Honest, Sincere, and Exited to do it every moment. I have nor fear or trepidation that such a deep and passionate feeling will be lost on the right Woman. I will admit, there are other ethnicities of women that are very pretty and lovely. This is no way takes away from their intrinsic beauty. The world is full of very talented, exceptional, and pretty women that are Asian, Hispanic, White, etc. I fully accept and admit that. But there is NO WOMAN that even compares the the Wonderment, Breathtaking Beauty, and Elegant Aura of a Black Woman. That is a Reality that we are all just now beginning to understand, appreciate, and honor. And it goes FAR BEYOND just the physical Attraction and Allure of Black Women. Their Real Beauty begins WITHIN and radiates through their being to the outer world of our perception. Their Outer Beauty, Gorgeous Physical Appearance, and Glamor is simply an outward reflection of the Magnificent and Exalted State of their INNER SELF. That is why they take our breath away and why they are so SUBLIME in totality. The more Black Women I meet and get to know, the more I realize the absolute Truth of my belief. It is so obvious and so real that I am sometimes confused and perplexed that more people are not shouting this Truth from the rooftops. This is my own individual opinion, for what it is worth. I will continue to express the passionate feeling until SHE is in my arms. And there, LONG AFTER THAT. Every Day that I am alive. It needs to be expressed over and over as the Truth it is.

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    • RuMyEbonyGal says:
      Posted: 09 Oct 20

      So very true. There's good and bad in every race. I personally would give my life for that woman who I gave my soul to, without complaint, without hesitation, without any regrets in a heartbeat.

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    • gl34 says:
      Posted: 30 Nov 20

      Wow thanks for appreciating the beauty in black ladies incase u have meant her may God bring that black lady to you. Amen

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    • reallycute says:
      Posted: 27 Jan 21

      So beautifully written, thank you so much.

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    • PAwoman says:
      Posted: 24 Feb 21

      @Soulmate2u: What a well written beautifully stated homage to black women!!!! Thank you so very much for such eloquently written commentary.

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  41.   tallguymke77 says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 20

    If America were less segregated and the government wasn’t still systematically trying to oppress AA and causing a rift between working classes maybe this site would be obsolete? I mean, this is my outlook on it. But Is it possible to simply be attracted to ones skin tone and that be the basis of starting a conversation that leads into a friendship that leads to dating and marriage? If it were two black people would it be different than one white person and one black? It shouldn’t be right? But there so much weight attached to race in america that how can we ignore it? If a woman tells me she likes my hair color is that different than me telling a woman I like her skin color? (not out of the blue on the street lol but on a date etc.) It seems to me it’s a problem when someone likes the idea of something or someone rather than the reality. I’m truly wondering this and would love feedback. My question overall is - if we are attracted initially to the skin and body and hair etc. -if everything that follows (getting to know them, having a real, true connection that goes beyond that) is that a problem? Beautiful people! Please tell me your thoughts! Thanks

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    • TMC35 says:
      Posted: 06 Jun 20

      Hello. To answer your question from my prospective, is I don't believe so. Why you ask? Because when we (men/women)first see one another, it is SOMETHING that attracts us to that person physically first. Be it skin tone, body shape, eyes, ears, lips....ect. The list can go on. It is really an individual thing on what is attractive to you. Just my thought.

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  42.   Chriss111 says:
    Posted: 12 Feb 20

    I just think it’s a beautiful thing when two people from different races come together.

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  43.   Praying4You says:
    Posted: 27 Dec 19

    The color of the man is not as relevant as how he treats me. I decided to venture outside my comfort zone but found no difference, other than color. Apparently, my confidence and self-sufficiency intimidates all men, regardless of color. I know how to submit to the leadership of the right man. I’ve had no luck with black, brown, or white men on any dating site, including this one.

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    • Kairitukega says:
      Posted: 31 Dec 19

      Wonderfully put. Me too. Thing is. Most men are not goodvat spoting a good woman.

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      • Matz157 says:
        Posted: 07 Mar 20

        I totally agree with you Kairtukega. I think men are terrible at that, whereas some women are terrible at spotting a good man too. To me, men go for the women who are 'up in your face' and not the ones who are more in the background so to speak. Also, a lot of men do not know how to treat a good woman when they do find one.

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        • mimifrench says:
          Posted: 20 Feb 22

          It takes time sometimes. After my white husband I met another white guy six months later and we had a great relationship. But he moved back to another part of the country. Then although I had loads of requests it took 2 years including Covid to have found my new guy. Tonight he just told me that all he wants is to make me happy. I luv it.

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  44.   Etaiwo says:
    Posted: 11 Nov 19

    All white me that have met are just player not serious and real

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    • nothingless says:
      Posted: 07 Jan 20

      Very true...They don’t need to be with any black woman. They’re very disrespectful.

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      • Matz157 says:
        Posted: 07 Mar 20

        I could say the same about black men too. To me, people are just people. There are good and bad in every race.

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    • tallguymke77 says:
      Posted: 05 Mar 20

      How can you lump every single white male together?

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      • Titi1978 says:
        Posted: 26 Mar 20

        I think some white men like black women just for sex nothing more

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        • blackbelle01 says:
          Posted: 30 Aug 20

          Do you feel the same way about BM? Because BM use BW for sex that is why there are so many baby momma's in the black community. Baby momma break down from BM. WW 92%, HW 85%, BW 78% so who is the sexual predator again?

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    • KevinWinz says:
      Posted: 03 May 20

      This is not true at all. I wish you did not have that view, but in order to have that view, it must have happened far too many times, with far too many of the same category men. There are still good men, outside of that circle.

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  45.   caribswirl says:
    Posted: 27 Oct 19

    I find that most white men are looking for black women just for sex. I also think that most white men are still embarrassed to introduce their black girlfriends to family and friends. Sounds ridiculous but it's true.

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    • WM4Ebony says:
      Posted: 02 Nov 19

      It's not that we are necessarily looking for sex but I'll have to admit black women ARE extremely sexy and alluring.....and after all, it is what we see visually that is the first impression.....and sometimes that leaves one breathless and aching with desire......after you see a person in action then you begin to realize whether it's more than physical.....just saying.....

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    • fairytales2 says:
      Posted: 10 Mar 20

      I've been in 4 relationships with white men and all of them introduced me to their families within 2 months of dating. I was also engaged to one I broke it off by the way. I think everyone's experience is different. I think most men will sleep with any women if you make it easy for them. Women have to be clear about what they will and will not except and good men will stay in the game if they are truly interested in you.

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    • Titi1978 says:
      Posted: 26 Mar 20

      Sadly true

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    • Maume25 says:
      Posted: 05 Jun 20

      I totally agree

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    • Blackrocke says:
      Posted: 11 Aug 20

      My attraction for black women is my natural self. It isn't a choice for me... it is me. Not embarrassing for me. My family and friends all know my preference. There is no shame for enjoying the company of a beautiful woman in my life.

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    • blackbelle01 says:
      Posted: 24 Apr 21

      I am a BW and I have dated and have been married to WM for the vast majority of my life so what you are saying is not true. WM that date/marry BW have no problem introducing you to their family members. My husband passed several years ago and if I get married again or date again I will date according to my preference which is a WM who have treated me well.

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  46.   Amamaamam says:
    Posted: 30 Apr 19

    White men are good and kind via showing love and they don't run away from their responsibility as a parent to their kids but black men can even abandon you when you are pregnant and the best thing black men do is cheating on their partners, black men like dealing with more than two women at ago and at the end failing his responsibility and we black woman are tired of keeping our children with no father love, but when you look at the side of a white men they really shows love to their families he can even die for his family, I just pray one day God listen to my prayers and give me a white man for my life husband forever and I will be so grateful

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    • Titi1978 says:
      Posted: 26 Mar 20

      You are telling us this from your experience. Everyone's experience is different! Being good or bad depends on the person not on a race

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    • Ruth116 says:
      Posted: 15 Apr 21

      At another dating site, I had a married BM try to hit on me, saying that he and his wife "had an understanding". I wrote back to him, NO CAN DO! I find most BM's notoriously abusive, unfaithful or both and he was most certainly those things to his wife. I don't need a character like him. My daughter married an individual like him, but she can't say that I didn't warn her about him.

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  47.   emeeme says:
    Posted: 06 Apr 19

    White men are the best husbands in the all world. To me, there is no black man who can win a white man when it comes to love and everything. Black men just want hook ups, 90% don't marry women and they even fear responsibility. White men are very sincere, honest, trusted, loving and very straight unlike black men. Well l am in this site to fine my white husband, my king,my world. Once God helps me find my white husband, l will treat him like a king, cherish him, be submissive to him and love him for the rest of my life. Well i know that No one is perfect or an angel and that is why it is important to understand each other and forgive when he/she makes amistake. I love white men with all my heart and to me they are the most handsome men in the all world. Talk about the colour i just love it wow! Been disappointed with ablack man before and l have decided never to date a black man again in my life. l rather remain single for the rest of my life than marrying a black man. l never dated a white man before but i am convienced and very sure that they make best husbands and they remain number one in the all world and No one can change that from me. Oh! where are you my white husband?? I know you are out their and l know one day we shall be a happy family with our children.

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    • Zoli77 says:
      Posted: 07 Sep 19

      Dear Emeeme! I am a white man and I tell you that NOT every white man is good for partnership! Many of them are players! Be careful! I don't think you are right with the idea that every black man is bad!

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      • Blkbeauty17 says:
        Posted: 07 Sep 19

        This is true Zoli77. There are white and black men alike who are players and are not good for partnership, at least until they mature more. I'm a single, strong independent BW who would love to have a responsible man in my life, whether Blk, white, Italian, etc.

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      • Beachess says:
        Posted: 19 Nov 19

        Thank you!

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      • Maume25 says:
        Posted: 05 Jun 20

        I totally agree with you... Met losts of white perverts.. I've met good white men as well..

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      • Nubian789 says:
        Posted: 15 Jun 20

        Thank you

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    • Bambara18 says:
      Posted: 08 May 20

      Totally disagree

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    • gl34 says:
      Posted: 30 Nov 20

      All people both black and white have different characters and personalities good or bad . You have to just pray to meet one who has a good character and right personality especially if u looking fr white men cz some have personality issues as well.

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  48.   Guitarzan65 says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 19

    For me, it's a strength and confidence thing. With the submission of a black woman, I know full well that it is EARNED, not GRANTED. I like a submissive woman in private, but I also like a strong, sexy, confident woman by my side. I don't find that balance in white women. I'm too old to be bothered with "changing" my partner. And, conversely,I'm too old to change now . I have simply found that I am more accepted for who I am and what I do by black women. So I keep hoping to find the one that will stay.

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  49.   Jayna254 says:
    Posted: 02 Feb 19

    White men love black women because they are hardworking, submissive welcoming loving, caring and respectful. A black women will make and give you a sweet home where you will feel respected, comfortable and welcomed. I ain’t saying this because I’m a blank lady, but that’s what we are being taught as we grow up. To respect your man and always to support him.

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    • dian.kouame says:
      Posted: 16 Feb 19

      hi

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    • Fakenews says:
      Posted: 19 Feb 19

      You're absolutly right.

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    • mimifrench says:
      Posted: 20 Feb 22

      That is absolutely right. We were brought up to do our part in the relationship be the mistress if a well run clean home with good cooked food n well behaved children where we give our man our support respect and love. In return we get financial support stability loyalty and love.

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  50.   Bradockryan says:
    Posted: 24 Jan 19

    I am a successful wm, and Jewish for instance I had a teacher in school keep me in the hall or back of class, to me it's an incredible flattery that people feel and treat me that way adversity caused me to leave school in the seventh grade and I never looked back I'm 57 now and. I dropped back to like 200k per year we'll every thing is paid for so why struggle, ebonic lady's are the underdog in so many ways so I want to share and be part of there success as well they are incredibly George's remember Moses married a nuben and the main thing is I need the word to know I don't play by there rules and yes as a Semite I do discriminate against be blonde haired blue eyed pencil liped white wemon I'll steal a princess from the getto any day and return with a queen spend 3-400 on an mk bag for a white lady and big whoo a sister will appreciate it and you for real it's all just very warm ... Thank you Bradock wolfson md,va and a hood need you !

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    • Lovely-4you says:
      Posted: 09 Jul 19

      Nubian Queen here. Well said, someone's King. Still looking for my own, had one for 10 years.......

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      • Thedude1111 says:
        Posted: 15 May 21

        When you have a relationship that long and knowing there was happiness in both of you for the longest and it ends up like that. Don’t it make you feel like everything has an end sometimes? Or what could it be is it having kids can make things difficult or economy or is it mainly the fact that it can get boring when you with same person for so long? We all know beginnings are beautiful but idk i wonder if true love that lasts exist. Because we see people live together forever but those people aren’t necessarily forever in love with eachother or at least not both. Of course there is some love but you know what i mean not like that big affection you have like the first few years. I assume one of reasons they stick together is cos they get too comfortable with being around eachother and don’t like to be alone or feel like its late to find something new. I’m 26 so just guessing. It could be anything that ruins a relationship but i know its hard for two people to both be happy for a very long time together because of different opinions and principles and it only takes some little hate and jealousy for things to get worse. It takes two special people and a great match for a relationship to past very long

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